“Sometimes God gives us tragedies so that we can pass along the knowledge of how to survive them to the next person who needs it.”

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I want you to think about that statement for a second, because there might not be anything more true than those words right there. And it doesn’t necessarily have to be for tragedies for that statement to apply. Becoming a parent. Getting married. Buying a house. New jobs. And the list goes on and on for those words to be applied to. As people, a lot of us do our best to share the good, the bad, and the ugly about any situation you can think of to people who have never experienced something before because it’s our attempt at helping them prepare for their next chapter in life. Whatever it may be. We especially do it when we struggled during a certain phase of our life. And I think that is because there are some things we wouldn’t wish upon our worst enemies. Things like miscarriages, postpartum depression, a sick child, just to name a few. So when we go through the thick of it alone & actually make it out to the other side, we don’t want others to suffer the way we did. If there is anything to make whatever the situation is a little bit easier for someone, we will share that information. That shortcut to make the darkness a little less shorter. That possibility to make a flicker of light in even the darkest moments. That compass to help lead us home.

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Life is hard. You and I both know that. And it doesn’t get any easier the older you get either. The only thing you get in the arsenal of time is “you live and you learn”. That’s it. And all of us have done exactly that. We have went through hell and back, many of times, and somehow made it back to the other side, on multiple occasions. Maybe not unscathed, but we are here to talk about it. So, I would call that a win in my books. So, how do we make it a little bit easier? A little bit better? We talk about it. Yes. That’s right. We talk about it. Why? Because there is someone out there that has gone through, or is currently going through an extremely similar experience and sometimes it’s just nice to talk to someone who just gets it. And that right there helps make you feel not so alone. It’s the flicker of light in what seems like never ending darkness. And that is why God gives us tragedies & heartaches. Not because we did something wrong & He is punishing us for it. But because “those who are wise will shine like the brightness of the Heavens”. Daniel 12:3. He is giving us wisdom to help give light in others darkness.

Those who are wise will shine like the brightness of the Heavens.

Daniel 12:3

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So, what’s the point of this post? Why write a post about some random quote from some show I can’t even remember the name of at the particular moment? (P. S. If you know what show or movie this came from, please comment it. It deserves all the credit for this post). And do you want to know my reason why? Because we stopped talking to each other. We stopped making connections to each other. We want others to believe we live this perfect little life, even when we are going through our darkest days. And what for? Seriously. What’s the point of looking perfect if you end up having to face all these battles alone? Life is not meant to be as hard as we seem to make it sometimes. There are people out there that get what you’re going through. More people than you even realize. People out there that you could help get through their own darkness if you just opened up a little bit, or vice versa. Never forget that even the most imperfect person is loved by God. Imperfections give us knowledge and wisdom. And it’s the imperfections that allows us to shine in ways we never thought were possible. I will attest to that first hand. So, keep finding a way through your tragedies, learn the lessons you thought you’d never have to discover in your lifetime, and, when the moment is right, share them with the next person. Be that comforting nightlight within someone else’s darkness. Not only will it help guide someone back home, it will also help you heal. And that is the ultimate goal. Never forget that even though we all walk different paths, our shoes tend to be very similar. Pain is pain. And heartache is heartache. Life lessons are called lessons for a reason. Because lessons are things that are meant to be shared & taught.

So “listen to advice & accept discipline, and at the end you will be counted among the wise.”

Proverbs 19:20

God puts people in your life for a reason. Some to learn lessons from. Others to help you out along your way. And some to help you realize how incredibly strong you actually are. So take in those new friendships. You never know what role they are going to play in your story.

My DM’s are always open if you need to talk.

Love, The One Legged Mom