When one becomes an amputee, they have to figure out balance. How to balance everything on one leg & how to find your balance again when you pop that prosthetic on. You have to find a balance between your old life & your new life. And that’s mostly because its nearly impossible to have more than one or the other to live a happy life. It’s not totally impossible, it can be done, but still a very difficult task. Because though you enjoyed your old life, it doesn’t really fit the new you as well as what you would like it to. And if you let the shift to the new you totally take over, it might not be for the better. If I would have let the idea of being an amputee consume me, I would not be the person I am today. I wouldn’t be the One Legged Mommy (technically I would be but you know what I mean). I would just be the mom who lost her leg from a flesh eating bacteria & has a permanent butt indentation in her chair because she spends that much time planted there. How flattering. Sure I need to rest more than I did on 2 legs, but I still get the jobs of being a wife, mom, coworker, sister, aunt, employee & daughter done & done right. And being able to know when to rest & still getting up to do what I want/need to shows the whole point of this post. To see/know/find your balance.

I had the realization last night that being a parent & being an amputee has at least one major thing in common. And I bet you can guess what that is. Balance. You have to find balance in parenthood. It’s just as important to find a good balance between parenthood & being a wife as it is to find your balance after losing a leg. Because without a good grasp on it, you will fall. Which is ok to do every once in awhile. We all aren’t perfect. We’re human. But when you start to do it all the time because you didn’t take your time to find your thing, whatever it is, to keep you standing, thats when it starts getting frustrating. You become angry & upset with your situation & your kids & yourself & those that love you & vice versa. The questions start flying. “Why me?!”. “How am I supposed to take care of a kid when I’m just a kid myself”. And the list goes on & on. And those are hard questions to answer. So it might be a minute before He answers them. So in the mean time, you need to find a way to stand tall with as minimum number of falls & casualties as possible. Find a way to find & obtain that balance. Your balance. Surround yourself with people who will lend a hand the second you start going down, because that will help more than you will ever know. And then do what you got to do to keep yourself in an upright position. Lean. Hold on. Free stand if your gutsy enough. I don’t care. As long as you are up & balanced.

Like I said before, falls will happen. We are human. Can’t change that. But we can change the way we stand so we fall less & less. We can change the way we see something. We can change the way respond to the hard stuff. Because every little shift either puts you in the right or wrong direction when it comes to being able to balance on your own. And you have to figure out how to adjust to those shifts. It’s going to take some time. I’ll tell you that much. But if you really want to keep on standing, sometimes you have to leap with the hopes that someone will be there to catch you. And sometimes standing tall is the only thing keeping your nose out of the water & you from drowning in all life has dumped your way. So today I want you decide where your balance lies. If you think you got it figured out, or at least a little, then you are good. If you feel like you can barely tell the difference between your left & your right feet, both figuratively & literally, then you need to start working on it. Because the less time you spend laying on the floor, the more time you can enjoy your kids or your spouse or the sunset. All things that look way better from the upright position. So stand up. Shoulders back. Take a deep breath. And balance…

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